I am on an island. Alone. I am an outsider looking in. I am never really "one of them," always an afterthought. I don't mean to dismiss or minimize the family connections I have but I do mean to speak the honest reality. My adopted family, because of the boundaries I have established as a… Continue reading An island
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Panic
Panic attacks and anxiety still haunt me. While the frequency occurs less and less, my nervousness can creap up unexpectedly and completely take over making it nearly impossible to breathe in some instances. And it happened again today. My adopted mom wanted to spend time with my daughter before school starts next week. She had… Continue reading Panic
Choices
I was recently reminded of the power of choices. We are constantly making choices from what to order at the coffee shop to who we want to spend our time with throughout the day. My Dad had a choice to meet me in January. He had a choice as to whether or not he picked… Continue reading Choices
Family by marriage
My husband is 28 years older than I am. I very, rarely admit the exact number of years he is my senior. It is obvious when we are together that there is, in fact, an age difference however, the exact number of years is rarely spoken out loud. When we married almost 15 years ago,… Continue reading Family by marriage
Tug Of War
I am the rope in a three-way tug of war: my adopted family, my biological Mom and my biological Dad. On one hand, they all want to spend time with me, talk with me, see me. On the other hand, the unspoken expectation is not to acknowledge the other family(s) exists and to act as… Continue reading Tug Of War
It’s Legal
August 1, 2018 At 8:41 a.m., I officially took my Father's last name! One June 30, 2018, my Dad and my Aunty honored my daughter and I with Hawaiian and Tahitian names. It is difficult to fully explain the emotional experience of being part of such a beautiful naming ceremony (see Our Hawaiian Names post… Continue reading It’s Legal
Heart Break
How do I protect someone's heart when I know the truth will hurt? My Mom was in town visiting. I'm sure she was curious about my time in Hawaii but wasn't pushing for details. She decided to extend her stay and rented a beach house. After dinner, while the kids played and with a glass… Continue reading Heart Break
Home Sweet Home
July 23, 2018 We arrived home at 9 p.m. Washington time. I felt off-balance. I was glad to be home but it felt different to be home, I was different. I am starting to realize I have changed. I feel more confident, even more bold. A willingness to stretch knowing I have such significant family… Continue reading Home Sweet Home
See you soon
July 22, 2018 My Dad cried tonight. He wouldn't say good-bye only that he would see me soon. He held on tightly telling me my family loved me, my brothers, my Auntys, my Uncles and my cousins and finally that he loved me. This very tall, large Hawaiian man cried telling how much I meant… Continue reading See you soon
It’s packing time
July 21, 2018 It is night 31 of our 32 night stay. Our bags are packed lining the hallway to the door. We are planning to run the family gauntlet tomorrow seeing everyone individually. I'm already tearing up as we prepare for our impending departure from Hawaii. My husband and daughter are so excited. As… Continue reading It’s packing time